1.
I use language that wouldn稚 put a person on the defensive, such
as telling my feelings rather than blaming or accusing.
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!
2.
I am not immediately defensive when my spouse brings up an issue
or problem.
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!
3.
I speak kindly to my souse (no sarcasm or name-calling).
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!
4.
I will apologize.
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!
5.
I take time to listen to what my spouse is saying.
(I知 not just thinking about what I知 going to say next while he
or she is talking).
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!
6.
I stay engaged with my spouse and don稚 just shut down and not
try to talk things out.
I知 really good at this!
I知 okay at this.
I really need to work on this!